Humanities & Culture
Spirituality and FaithBy ReuvenSpolter
6 hours ago
 Should we cause our children to suffer in order to help them fully appreciate the Redemption we're supposed to relive on the night of the Seder? Maybe we should. After all, as parents, we cause our kids to suffer all the time.
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Along the same lines, my wife Rena shared with me this story of parents outraged an an educational attempt to help kids appreciate the suffering of the Holocaust. Do you agree with the incensed mother at the end of the story? I'm not sure.
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LifestyleLove & RelationshipsBy PatriciaC
2 days ago
When it comes to love, relationships can be like cars: constant care and adjustment (instead of pricey and painful visits to the body shop/marriage counselor) are often the best way to improve and strengthen your bond. One of O's staffers gets the lowdown from the experts on five fixes to start making now.
1: "Stop all shame, blame, and criticism. Instead ask for what you want in a clear, specific, and positive manner, and express appreciation for your partner. To elaborate: Men need to feel competent—that they make a contribution and that it is noticed. They like to be told what 'behavior' makes you happy. Since men tend to express affection by doing things, you should interpret their actions as love. When men know what to do and are acknowledged for it, they tend to keep doing it." — Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want
2: "Change from a critical habit of mind, in which you're very involved with your partner's mistakes, to a positive one, in which you catch him doing something right. Notice one small thing, and express genuine appreciation. That will change your interaction patterns from escalating negativity and criticism to building a culture of appreciation." — John M. Gottman, PhD, author of |
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LifestyleLove & RelationshipsBy reena
2 days ago
If we consider the history of the institution of marriage, all of us would agree that it started at the time of creation itself. Man and woman are different both biologically and in mental makeup. However, the creation would not continue if man and woman do not come together. The physical and emotional needs unite man and woman and marriages take place. Till the beginning of the twentieth century, joint families and lifetime single marriages were quite prevalent. Divorces were few and far in between. However, things started changing as more and more women took up careers and achieved financial independence. The dependence of women on men declined and even small disagreements were magnified to a large extent that they were considered to be impinging on the individuality. Let us consider the top 15 reasons why couples break up.
- Desire to be independent.
- Getting attracted to another person.
- Infidelity.
- Physical incompatibility.
- Less attracted to the person in a sexual way.
- Lack of proper body maintenance, like becoming too fat.
- Conflict in tastes and desires.
- Continuous nagging.
- Comparing the man or woman to others constantly
- Imparting unsolicited advice all the time
- Addiction to alcohol or drugs
- Deterioration in the health of one spouse or suffering from incurable ailments like HIV
- Physical and mental abuse and exhibiting sadistic tendencies
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TechnologyInternetBy Chuck Reynolds
2 days ago
There was too much going on at SXSW for me to catch everything – I'm catching up on panels I didn't see and Peter Shankman had a great talk on self-promotion and how to do it right. Honestly this stuff is very common sense but if you've been on twitter or facebook for more than a day you know that most people still don't get it. Here are my notes from his talk.2 Self-Promotion to save the world
– by Peter Shankman @skydiver - Get other people to WANT to do your promotion for you
- not saying how great you are, but having others want to say how great you are
- when self-promotion is done right – it's helping
- being "that guy" – the person you call when you know you're in the shit and they'll get you out of it, they've done it before without having to ask.
- Transparency: obama won off being more transparent, works for you too
- Relevancy: is what you're saying / promoting relevant to your audience?
- 2.7 seconds is attention span now – and get hit with that 16,000 times a day
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