Life

By : Jacob Alex Ferguson

Communication isn't always that easy. In every conversation, it can happen that we don't know what to say. Sometimes, we prefer to keep our mouth shut instead of telling something we will regret later. But those silences can be really meaningful in their own way. Especially if those are accompanied with some body language. An example? If your man says something stupid, you can say nothing but just roll your eyes. And it just tells him how stupid it was.

But telling nothing without using body language can simply mean we give the other reason on what he/she says.  At least, this is how it is interpreted. In violent relationships, this is how you accept the humiliation from your partner. It's important to react, even if you know you're wrong. It's not because you're wrong that you deserve to be treated the wrong way. Recently, one of my editors went ballistic with one of my coworkers, in front of everyone in the newsroom. and my colleague just waited he finished shouting at him to ask him a little bit of respect, and to stop talking to him like he was a dog. This is the right reaction toward a verbal aggression. It's important to react and to say you were hurt. If you don't do that, this is a straight ticket for moral harassment. You just give to your aggressor a validation for his/her behavior.

People who consider themselves victims of their circumstances will always remain victims, unless they develop a greater vision for their lives.                                                                                                                                                                      -Stedman Graham

Do you allow circumstances to dictate your life?

If you do then I have news for you there is a whole other world out there for you. A happier world, a world of opportunities that is just waiting for you to discover what it holds for you.

I saw this online today and couldn't resist posting it on here. It's a concept developed by designer Igor “Rogix” Udushlivy: book jackets with matching bookmarks. Tell me these aren't cute:

In every couple, there are times when you just mock each other just for fun. This can be used after a fight to cool down the tension, but not only. Most of the people I know also admit they like to mock the one they like/love. It's a way to show them how much they care about them. But unfortunately, there's a thin line between gently mocking and humiliating the one you love. For example, when you make fun of his/her inability to do something, this can be cruel, and childish. For example, if you can't cook, would you appreciate if the one you love mocks you on this? I'm not sure. This is a real landmine.

Some people also use this laughing arm to disguise their criticisms. For example, all the bad jokes men make on women, and those women make on men too. Of course, those jokes, if they remain between men or women, don't hurt, they just make laugh. But if you say this to a man, when you're a woman, then it's not funny anymore. Once, I was invited to launch with some guys, and they were impressed by my appetite and my choice among the menu. They joked they thought I would take the salad and eat nothing. And the conversation remained mainly around that during a long moment. You can imagine that I didn't appreciate at all those stupid remarks.

And then, there's just cruelty. "