Okay let’s see. A suave, Mel Gibson kinda clone with a nice income, not afraid to wear pink, loves milkshake and dislikes boring stuff like..books’n’stuff.
No. Wait a minute, that’s not what I want! I’m not that superficial! Here’s the list..I know, I know, it’s hard to generalize about people but this really is what the majority of women want in their partner:
a) He makes me laugh so hard my stomach aches! He doesn’t have to be a comedian at all times (we can all appreciate some seriousness now and then) but he knows how to make me smile, even laugh..when I need it the most. On the other hand I don’t want an idiot who seems to laugh at everything..that’s very annoying.
b) I wanna be his number 1. If he has kids, I wanna be his number 2 – but that’s the lowest I wanna go on the scale. If work is more important and being out with the guys is more important than being with me..forget it. Of course he needs a social life and he needs to take care of stuff (he can’t be glued to my apron) – but he’s got my *** covered. At all times. He’s there if I need him.
c) Life is too short for bad sex. I’m sure all you ladies will agree: We wanna be noticed, we wanna be told we’re sexy. He has to say – with words and acts – that he wants us. Right? We want some kachingching, ringe-ding-honk-honk. If he can’t be bothered to focus on YOU in the bedroom, then what’s the point? After all, you’re gonna be focused on him, right? You don’t want two people focused on his needs and none focused on yours.
d) I want a grown man! I will be his emotional support, his soft place to fall – but I won’t be his mom. Ever. Neither do I expect him to be my dad. That would be a very unhealthy relationship. I hereby pledge I will not put out his clothes for him, I will not tell him what to wear, straighten his tie or say stuff like “Remember to wear your hat, it’s cold outside”.
e) He lets me have my freedom. I can have time for myself, to see a movie, to see friends, to just be free of “us”. I’ll do the same for him. Cos quite frankly, any relationship will suffer if we hang around each other 24/7, right?
f) I can be ME without having to act like a chameleon, changing into whatever his mood is at the moment. I used to do that quite a lot in past relationships, trying desperately to fit into his picture of what I should be. Not a good idea! I guess you accept yourself much better with age and I now have the strong belief that if he can’t love me for the real me, then there’s no point in moving on. The real me is who’s he getting. Not an actress.
g) He loves kids! No need to explain this one. He just loves kids. That’s all.
h) He is generous. He’s not only generous with whatever money he has, he is generous with the things that truly matter: His time, his attention, his love, his spirit, his ability to forgive.
These are things that cannot be negotiated. Now tell me your list! What’s an absolute, non-negotiable must when you choose a partner?
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