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Catherine stumbled out from the door of the doctor’s surgery onto the street. She screwed up her eyes against the glare of the sun and made her way to the coffee shop she remembered seeing on the way to the appointment with Doctor Flannagan, their new family doctor.  Yes, that’s what she needed, a strong cup of coffee to clear her head and to think.  Doctor Flannagan had been very kind. 

‘I’m afraid you’re pregnant, Cathy,’ he’d told her. 

‘But I can’t be,’ she had answered in alarm. ‘Forty-eight is too old to be having a baby. What will my husband and family think?’

Doctor Flannagan had coughed and looked uncomfortable.  He’d hesitated and then spoke. ‘I know someone who could help you if that is what you would like.’

‘You mean an abortion?’ Catherine had asked. ‘I can’t do that Doctor Flannagan.  I’m a Catholic It’s against every belief and principle I have.’

‘I’m just telling you that it’s an option I can help you with.’

‘I’ll think about it, Doctor,’ she’d answered unconvinced.

Catherine sat in the coffee shop at a table by the window and watched the procession of people passing by.  Her head spun like a top and she had the beginnings of a headache. How was she going to manage the demands of a baby at her age and what about her job? 

I assume that if you are reading this you are in some stage of getting over a break up. Your head is full of a million different thoughts, they go from wanting to kill them to missing them and you wanting them back. The thoughts just keep racing through your head until it feels like it will explode. Don't worry, you are not going crazing. This is normal after a breakup, here a few thoughts about getting over a break up.

Getting over a break up is a grieving process similar to the grieving process of a person that has died. There is a grieving process because a relationship has died. Although the death of a person is not as traumatic a s a person dying, the death of a relationship can be devastating. (regardless of male or female) The break up of a serious relationship can render a person an unproductive member of society until the healing begins.

One of the best ways to start the healing process and get over a break up is to get out a pen and some paper and start writing. Not on a computer with a word processor, but pen and paper. The act of writing with pen and paper has a much deeper connection to your mind and emotions. Write out every feeling and emotion that you are experiencing and don't be polite

I hurt for my friends. Those of you that have read anything I have written about some of them, you know that I am very passionate about their happiness. So much so yes, that I , when provoked, tend to try and solve their problems. It is hard for me to step back and actually not try and let them know they will be ok. I listen, but I tend to opinionate myself instead of just letting them vent. (For that my dear friends, my apologies. )

Today I was thinking about what I will post. For some reason I feel I need to say something to you all every day. Isn't that the point of a blog? Why does it have to be? (Another subject- another post) Point here is solely that I have such a peace in my heart becasue of who I am IN God, that I ache when those around me don't share that with me.

So much around me lately has pointed at me lately telling me to just sit for them. Be here for them. Yesterday I got off work early. As my son was cleaning his room, I turned on the TV.