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Perfection

CounselingSelf Management

3 hours ago

This blog entry will not be perfect. Mainly because this topic is one I’m still struggling with, one I’m still trying to figure out. One I didn’t even necessarily realize until recently was a problem for me. I’ve never claimed I was perfect, never even thought I was striving for perfection, but I’ve always tried to overachieve, to do my best, always believed “If a thing is worth doing, it’s worth doing well.”

And that’s worked well for me in life. I own my own business, I became an author, and I believe that overall, I’ve been successful in life. Still, sometimes I run myself ragged trying to be perfect.

Perfection comes in many disguises. It can be in people pleasing—trying to be the perfect son or daughter, the perfect mom, perfect spouse, perfect employee, to the point that we lose sight of who we are and what we want. It can be an extreme form of control—we feel we have to do everything because nobody else can do anything; only we can do things right and if we don’t do it ourselves, the whole world might fall apart. And it can be obsessive compulsive. We work all day and deserve a few minutes to ourselves, so we finally sit down in our chair in the evening to rest when we see a piece of fuzz on the carpet. No matter how tired we might be, we jump up and remove that piece of fuzz. Yes, we could have waited an hour until we had another reason to get up, but that piece of fuzz really bugs us if we don’t take care of it right away.

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30 Days of Character Development - Patience

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4 hours ago

I have been dreading this one. But in building and developing Godly Character this one is a must! Patience is usually defined in two ways, either waiting under difficult circumstances and the other is being patient with people.

Patience is:
1 – The quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.
2 – An ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay: to have patience with a slow learner.
3 – Quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence: to work with patience.

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Who are We?

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26 hours ago

Happy St. Patrick’s Day! I find today an interesting holiday, even though I’m not Irish, because it’s the only holiday really celebrating people’s ethnic identity. Although it originated as a feast day for St. Patrick, it has grown to be a celebration of all things Irish, and while Ireland is the place of its origins, St. Patrick’s Day celebrations and parades actually started in the United States in colonial times. They gained in popularity over the years as the large number of Irish immigrants coming to the United States in the mid-nineteenth century, following the Great Potato Famine, led to prejudice in the United States against the Irish. The holiday was a way for the Irish to rally and keep up their pride in themselves.

Whatever our nationality or ethnicity, we can all take pride in our backgrounds and in the people who came before us, the people who helped to form our character and identity. As Americans (I can claim that myself now—I’m an immigrant from Canada whose parents immigrated there from Russia—and I recently became a U.S. Citizen), we celebrate our melting pot of culture, but as we have melted, we have often lost touch with our roots.

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30 Days of Character Development - Self-Control

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42 hours ago

As was probably noticed if you read this blog, I took the weekend off and have decided that is OK!:)
I can get a little OCD about my 30 day blogs but in light of good character development I felt I need to give myself a little break. Weekends are always very busy so I decided to keep my blog posts for weekdays.

I am so proud of my sweet niece, Beverly, for embracing these character development blogs. If you haven't seen her blog, check it out at http://nprfloridagirl.blogspot.com.

So we are continuing to look at "Self-Control"

We tend to loose our "Self-Control" when we are stressed so today we will look at how to reduce stress in your life so that self-control will be easier to obtain.

Stress is basically TOO MUCH - too many things to do, to many people to help, to many problems to solve and not keeping boundaries in your life. The American Psychological Association conducted a stress survey and gave us the top five stressors in life:
  1. Sick family member
  2. Monday
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30 Days of Character Development - Self-Control

CounselingSelf Management

2 days ago

Moving on to our next Character Trait I was torn between "self-control" and "patience" but chose to go with self-control next. The reason went with self-control first is that is what you have to have first to develop patience.

Knowing God leads to Self-Control. Self-Control leads to patient endurance and patient endurance leads to godliness. 2 Peter 1:6

Lack of Self-Control comes in many forms. You may have it in one area of your life but not in another. Many of us when thinking of someone without self-control would immediately think of a person that can not control their emotions such as anger, saying something hurtful before you think or displaying out of control emotions. But sometimes we don't think of overspending, overeating, not exercising, chronic lateness (ouch!), saying no to commitments you shouldn't commit to, spending too much time on the phone, computer or even gossiping as a lack of self - control but they are.

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Job Interview Skills-Top Ten Interview Questions

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3 days ago

New college graduates faced with the steep learning curve of job search and career planning will benefit from learning about job interview skills. Now that you have graduated from college, you must be proud of your achievement. How on earth did you manage to pass your exams with flying colours? You anticipate what were the questions asked in the exam right? Well, the same goes to job interviews. As part of the job interview skills, you would need to know what the questions that could be asked. This is because knowing is winning half the battle. 1)      Tell me about yourself This question does not permit you to tell everything about yourself. You don’t need to tell the interviewer how you were born but the best qualities that make you the cream of the crop. Just outline the key points that are relevant to your personal characteristics like being committed, enthusiastic, team worker and use personal life examples like your sports or hobbies, or social charity interest to demonstrate your personal attributes. 2)     Why should I hire you? Reply by asserting that you are the best person for this job and give reasons to back up this claim. Show your passion and enthusiasm when answering this question. Give examples of where you achieved your goals and or contributed to the success of a team or organizational activity. 3)     Please tell me about your future objectives. Most people are caught off guard here because not everyone has fully planned out their career path. But it is important that you show that you have thought out your life goals enough to at least know what you would like to be working at in 5 years time. Put it in a way that shows you have ambition, and want to further develop your skills within the organization.  This is a fundamental question you need to have a slick answer for to have good job interview skills. 4)     Has your education prepared you for your career? State how your education has trained you towards the necessary skills needed for the job and give examples to support this claim. Give examples of how your training has been applied in practical experience within an organization you worked in or volunteered in. 5)     Have you been a team player? Everyone will reply yes but lack the proof needed to back it up. Tell the interviewer how you helped your team during your college years on winning a certain competition or other examples that emphasizes your quality as a team player. This does not have to be only in sports, it can be working within any Club or Committee that you are a member of. 6)     Did you encounter any conflict with your previous professors or employer? What are the steps that you have taken to resolve this issue? This is a classic question that you need to be well rehearsed for with a coach to learn excellent job interview skills. When posed with this question, do not reply that you never had a conflict because this is a blatant lie. Instead give an example of a conflict that you have encountered and give solutions that you have taken to solve it. Interviewers want a matured, logical and if possible an out-of-the-box solution. Obviously do not say that you wanted to fight or take any immature action, as that only serves to demonstrate that you do not have any conflict resolution skills. 7)     What is your biggest weakness? Do not say the trite “I am a workaholic because it will not impress your interviewer, who will see through the answer, unless you genuinely are a workaholic and can prove it to them. Instead tell the interviewer one of your subtle weaknesses such as being disorganised and tell him/her how you are solving it currently such as by having an organiser. This is a great opportunity to let them know that you are still undertaking personal and professional development training as well. 8)     How would your professors describe you? This question requires a bit of planning as you never know whether the interviewer will ask for a reference from the professor you have just quoted. So, prepare a game plan by approaching a professor with whom you are in good terms with and get a reference letter to support your quotation. Do this in advance. Then you can summarise what you know your reference will tell them.  It also serves to help you learn a bit about yourself as you may learn something new about yourself or your skills from discussing this with your Professor. 9)     What are the qualities that a manager should possess? Remember the two key points which are Leadership and Vision. Elaborate on these two points by giving solid points to back it up. You can also tell the interviewer your idol or mentor who have contributed in imparting his/her skills to you. If you don’t have personal mentors that you look up to, mention that you read about and study the leadership qualities and life stories of top leaders autobiographies you are reading, or the latest management book on the best sellers list, to show that you take your leadership professional development training seriously. You will impress with your job interview skills if you can answer this question with a well considered answer. 10)   If you can turn back time, what would you like to see change? Try to prepare something that relates to your career or vocation. Don’t be negative. It is not an opportunity to talk about all the regrets of your life or love-life. If the interviewer wishes to press further, be careful not to divulge too much in your personal life. Just keep it professional and positive in outlook. Equipping yourself with these job interview skills should garner you with a prospective chance in securing the job because knowing is winning half the bat
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