Health, Sports & Fitness

Saving Marriages With Unconditional Love

By AdviseCouples

12 months ago

In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had

with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal. A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these men, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain. When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don't know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love. So what is unconditional love? Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, Hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to "real" love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that's okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner's faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that's okay. That's called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have. So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learned here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives. But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all. Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship. ---------------------------------------------------- Men and women from all over the globe give up on their marriages every year because they don't know where to start. They pass all responsibility for their marriage success to their partner or a counselor and end up disappointed with the result. It doesn't have to be that way. If you knew exactly what YOU can do to help save your marriage, right now, would you do it? All you need to know right here ==> http://www.ExBackTestimonials.com

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By Jordan12 months ago

Good article. I don't think anyone disagrees that if both people in a relationship view themselves as imperfect beings, accept each others' flaws and desire to move forward, help one another for the long run they will achieve depth, growth and true intimacy.

How about those relationships where one person is willing to love unconditionally and the other is wrapped in his/her wants? Imo, the unconditional lover needs more than support. He/she is in dire straight of Divine intervention, because none of us, or most of us are incapable of going on loving forever without having it returned.

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